How many times can you recall failure you’ve experienced in the past year? Even though we all have the goal to be a perfect, let’s be honest with each other. You can probably recall at least a few experiences. Failure, as we all know, is a vital part of the process.
Sometimes I really dislike how human I am. And when I say that I mean that I dislike how scared we are of failure despite how often we fail. Whenever it comes to trying something new, testing a new hypothesis, or venturing into the unknown, it’s scary! Staying in routine, sticking with what we know, and getting the results that we are certain to get is what’s comfortable, but the most effective growth doesn’t occur in our comfort zones.
Furthermore, comfort zones most often aren’t even necessary in society today. Our simple fears surrounding the idea of stepping outside of them will likely result in no negative side effects, aside from a few awkward stares and perhaps some light commentary from complete strangers.
Has anyone here heard of ‘comfort challenges’? They’re challenges that are very simple, take little-to-no time to complete, and are aimed to take us just outside of our comfort zones. For example, the next time you go out for coffee, ask for a 10% discount. Don’t tell the cashier/barista any reasoning behind the 10%, just ask them for it. This example will cost you nothing, will not hurt you or anyone in any way, but will likely make your heart beat faster than you think!
If you try this out, please let me know how your experience goes!
But not to get off on too much of a tangent here, fear is nothing but fear. One of my mentors tells me quite often that FEAR is nothing but False Evidence Appearing Real. Something beautiful about fear is that beyond it is growth, knowledge, experience, and opportunity!
Sure, fear is present to prevent us from making mistakes. Mistakes can lead to a plethora of bad circumstances, but they more often than not lead to nothing. Mistakes often land us in the same exact spot that we are in right now. The easiest way to look at it is using the example of sales. If you don’t make that call, you clearly won’t make a sale. But, if you do make that call, you have the potential of making a sale. However, if you fail, if you don’t make the sale, you are in the same exact place. No harm, no foul.
The same goes for many other areas of life. Mistakes, failure, screw-ups, they’re all necessities to help you learn and grow. Hell, try looking at success as a static percentage. If you believe that you will succeed at least 5% of the time, that’s wonderful! That means that all you need to do is go make 20 attempts and, statistically, you’ll succeed at least once!
Now, the reason I’m writing this, the reason that I write any of these articles, is not only because I want to share these ideas with whoever is reading them, but it helps to act as a reminder and an elaboration on something I’m going through in my life. Right now, I might make a large investment that might throw me into temporary debt. The upside is huge, and I have found ways to minimize the downside. And with that said, I have at least a 70% confidence in my ability to make it succeed with plans to survive if that 30% happens to unfold.
The bottom line is this: don’t let fear of making a mistake keep you from your ability to succeed. Success is on the far side of hard work, and that hard work consists of failure. But the one thing that you need to keep in mind is that hope, that faith, that truth, that fear is nothing but imagination. Don’t let your imagination hold you back. Hurry up. Veer off the path you’re used to. Go stumble on some loose rocks. You will find your footing, I promise. And once you stumble a few times, you will learn. It is what you learn from your experience that will help you grow and eventually succeed.